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Mothers are Encouragers

March 9, 2012

A picture from our nature walk yesterday

So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing. 1 Thes 5:11

Encouragement is important, we all need it and our children especially need it! I see far too many children with low self-esteem at such a young age, they don’t like themselves, they act out and take it into adult life. Nurturing love, touch and encouragement are essential to a childs daily diet, and mothers, we get the opportunity to pour it out in abundance.

We can so easily get consumed with home life and responsibilities, we’re doing the stuff of life, we’re meeting all our children’s ‘needs’; everyone is fed, clothed and educated… but are they encouraged?

We need to be intentional about our encouragement; let your children know how great they are, let them know that it’s ok to make a mistake and this is how we learn, let them know you believe in them and they are loved without condition.  Make a deliberate decision everyday to encourage your children. Start when they are babies and never stop!

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” Helen Keller

5 Practical and creative ways to encourage your children:

  1. We play an encouragement game; it’s spontaneous and can happen anywhere and at anytime in your day. One person just starts by saying “one thing I love about Nyah is…”, then everyone has to join in and say one thing they also love about that person, you might stop there or go on to another person.
  2. Write your child a thank you note and leave it on their bed
  3. Let them overhear you speaking to Dad/Grandma/a good friend about how proud you are of them or telling a detailed story of something they’ve done
  4. Surprise them with a gift for a specific achievement or for something they have overcome
  5. Use this website for your handwriting sheets and write them an encouraging paragraph to practice their penmanship (my children especially love this one!)

What creative ideas do you have to encourage your children?

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13

3 Comments leave one →
  1. March 9, 2012 10:06 pm

    Spot on Leah! God has been speaking to me about the same thing this week. We ALL need encouragement; it makes us feel appreciated and valued, that we have achieved something and it spurs us on to greater things and gives us the confidence we need. I agree with you, what a privilege to be able to pour encouragement into our precious children!

  2. March 9, 2012 11:23 pm

    I had a conversation about this with my husband earlier today – our eldest is doing really well in many areas of his life but we feel that he could still do a bit better (he seems a tiny bit inherently lazy!). However – I have realised that (like his Mum) this child won’t hear the five minutes of ‘wow – that’s amazing, well done’ if it is followed by five seconds of ‘why don’t you try it again, I think you could do even better’. Naturally – we want to encourage our children to achieve and be everything they possibly can BUT it is important to unconditionally applaud and encourage the small steps en route!

    I think this may be an area where you have to discern the personality of the specific child. I don’t think it’s a ‘one size fits all’ thing.

    It’s also really important that the stuff you encourage them with is TRUE and meaningful. Kids (at least mine!) are very perceptive when the applause they receive isn’t genuine. I once had a four times a year exercise to write a list of ‘ten things I love about you’ for each of my children (I did it on every child’s birthday – for all of them). I made a point of not reading the last list and sometimes it was hard work to get to ten (not because I didn’t love them but because ten is a BIG number)! However – it did mean I always had a list of genuine and authentic things which I could tell them I loved to see in them. I should start it up again!

  3. leahboden permalink*
    March 10, 2012 7:45 am

    Thanks Kathi – it is a privilege!

    Anna, love the list idea, you should start it up again!

    Leah x

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